There is an art to knowing how to compliment a women, and some men are better at it than others. Knowing how to say nice things to women can go a long way in accomplishing your goal when it comes to women and it just feels nice to know you’ve made someone feel good about herself.

When was the last time you complimented your lover or wife? Are you wondering what you can say to a woman you’re interested in without appearing lame or annoying? Do you want to make a good impression on a woman you just started dating? Here are a few thoughts on how best to pay a compliment to a woman:

Be specific
Saying, “You look nice tonight” is okay, but it’s generic and she’s heard the same exact words from other men. So be original and focus on a detail. What exactly is it that makes her look beautiful? Something along the lines of, “Your brown dress really brings out the brown in your eyes,” or “Your glasses make you look studious. I like that.” The second example has some humor to it, which is fine, as long as you don’t come across as making fun of her.

Don’t forget her mind
So you think she’s beautiful and you want to let her know it. that’s cool, but also think about her personality and brain. What characteristics do you find attractive in her? If she is a gorgeous woman she is used to hearing things about her looks, but imagine how she’ll feel if you compliment her smarts or ability to deal with people, or anything besides her body. Women like to know that you notice them for their inner beauty too.

Don’t be sexual
Don’t tell her she has a great ass or nice breasts. Anything sexual will most likely turn her off and make her think you are a pervert. You can compliment her on certain body parts but only certain ones. It’s okay to compliment lips, cheekbones, eyes, and feet if it is tastefully delivered . She has to feel like the remarks were sincere in their appreciation of her body, but in a nonsexual way, which brings me to the next thought:

Be sincere
When you compliment a woman, stick to compliments that you truly believe and not just things you think she wants to hear. She will know if you’re faking it and that’s worse than no compliment at all. Think about what you really find attractive about her and mention it.

Don’t over or under-do it
Avoid complimenting her every ten minutes or you will come across as desperate. When you compliment a woman too often, she will wonder what you have up your sleeve since you seem to be buttering her up for something. Just be aware of when you can naturally inject an appropriate compliment depending on the circumstances. And remember that if you never compliment a woman, she may wonder how much you like her. It’s true that actions can be compliments too, but it’s still nice for women to hear actual, direct words that express what you’re thinking in that moment

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