As you start out dating you and your new guy or girl are practically inseparable. You can barely breathe because they are right next to you sucking up the same air. This was more than likely due to the every hour on the hour phone calls, or they biweekly dating rituals, or maybe even the spicy hot spontaneity you all had. Oh and the constant sex was not a bad deal either! However somewhere down the line the bright fourth of July fireworks show faded. Maybe you two were at that step where you decided you could not take being away from one another any longer or the “Baby what’s mine is yours and what’s yours is mine” phase and moved in together. Maybe the honey moon is done and the reality of life took over. You know the point where you all realize it’s time to go back to work, the kids have to be cared for, and SHARED BILLS have to be paid! Life alone can ruin a relationship when allowed. Life’s random blows can kick you in the ass and leave you depressed, lonely, dull, boring, pessimistic, and many other things. However life’s hardships and trials will always be around. Therefore you can’t succumb to daily problems and let them wreck you and your relationship.

Believe it or not MOST women do NOT think sitting home watching every football, basketball, baseball, or which ever game you like is fun. Sorry but it’s the truth. Here’s where trusty compromise comes in. If you know your woman has been working late all week then why would you purposely tick her off by being sprawled out on the white couch delved into a bag of messy orange Cheetos. Get up every now and then and do these things:

1. Try something simple. Bring home her favorite flowers! Place them somewhere she will immediately notice them. With a card that reads “Thought of you when I saw these”, or “I love u babe, I wanted you to know I still remember what you like”.

2. Try Running a bath! Add white flower petals, her favorite fragrances, and break out the vanilla, lavender scented candles. Be careful because only you can prevent forest fires. Okay that was not even funny. Oh and I don’t have anything against colored flowers it’s just that they tend to stain tubs.

3. Try Cleaning up! Or you can cheat and have Merry Maids do it. While your at it have dinner ready. No the frozen Hungry Mans from Shoppers does not count. Or you can cheat again and have it catered maybe even ordered. What hard working woman would not want to come home to a fresh clean place.

4. Try to make dinner reservations! Pick an upscale restaurant you all have never been to. Maybe buy her a new outfit. You can even go with her to pick out a sexy dress to wear that you can enjoy removing later. Don’t know what restaurant well ask! There are plenty of ladies everywhere. Go up to a lady somewhere like the mall, a clothing or grocery store, and maybe even church ask them where are some really nice restaurants they enjoy! Be sure to let them know your not trying to get at them. You know to avoid drama. Oh yeah don’t forget to research the place. Would not want to get set up with some dirty random diner.

5. Try my last but not least. ASK ASK ASK!!! Sit your woman down and ask her what SHE wants to do! Pull out a pen and pad and write down all she has to say. Then get up and get to work!

There is a plethora of other options that you can use. Here I just named a few. It’s okay to be vulnerable. Contrary to belief it’s not a sign of weakness. It is a way of showing your significant other that there is more to you than what meets the eye. She will take pride in knowing that there is a side of you that only exists for her. Listen to her and actually retain what she says. Try talking you never know what someone has to say unless you ask. Plus by showing her your new found side she may open up and show you hers;)

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