Keeping The Flame In Your Relationship Lit
Ladies Be Open!
Don’t get mad! No he does not want to go shopping with you! Yes there are some straight men who enjoy this I don’t know where but there are some but not many! To be honest do you really want your man to know everything in your closet? You can’t tell me you won’t be mad if he says “Hell no you not buying that tight ass shirt” right! Once again here comes compromise. If you know he skipped a few games on T.V. then don’t trip cause he wants to watch the playoffs or the superbowl. Also don’t look forward to him paying you any attention even with the new Victoria Secret set. Just sit next to him and WATCH or read a book……Here are some tips for when there is no game on:
1. Give him a massage. Light some candles and break out the oils, jells, lotions, whatever.
Ask him where it hurts focus on that area but don’t stay on it. It will cause tenderness then become sore by morning if you stay in one place.
2. Give him a party night with the guys. Stock the fridge with what he likes, tell him to invite the boys over, and turn on the game. Don’t know the channel just ask him.
3. Give him lunch. Show up at the office after you call ahead! Not because he may be cheating but because he might already have it covered! Nothing major maybe something like a soda (no alcohol he is at work), chips, and a sandwich.
4. Give him a new place to chill with you. Find a nice sports grill highly recommended by other couples. Find out what they have to offer in advance this way you won’t get there and be disappointed.
5. Give him excitement! ASK ASK ASK!!! Ask your guy what is one of his fantasies. Don’t forget to be open. As long as you are not doing anything crazy dangerous then have at it!
You all can also do these things together:
- Have a “Home Date” as my guy calls it. The two of you cook something new or whatever they like that you can make. Break out the picnic blanket lay it out in a room in your house or even outside in the backyard! It’s a cute way to spend a little bit of time together.
- Have a “Exploration” place items all over the house (don’t forget where) let each one mean something like they don’t have to wash dishes tonight. Have each other timed so they wont be able to find all the favors or else you will end up cleaning the entire house!
- Have a “Dance” bring out the Christmas lights! Yes the Christmas lights. They offer a soft glow with no candle watching. If you have a deck adorn it with the lights have dinner on the table. Don’t forget the music! Remember it’s a night for dancing!
- Have a “Poetry night” write each other a sexy poem. More than likely about what you want from one another.
Okay now all the minor tips have been given but you got to get extra sexy at some point!
So try these tasty treats and ideas for keeping the spice.
- Make coupons Let each coupon have a special favor. Like a sensual massage, a feeding, or a sexual act.
- Break out the cuffs! Cuff your mate to a chair and break out the feathers! Something about being restrained heightens ones pleasure! Sort of like being restrained while being tickled!
- Chocolate covered foods and sweet liquors. Dip strawberries, pretzels, or whatever you find tasty. Pour liquor on the belly button or other places. Then lick them clean!
- Lastly get creative! Go get books on new positions! Or try getting striptease lessons. Have fun.
As I said before relationships can take hits. Don’t let things like being closed minded or life’s issues take away a person who makes you happy. Keep the sparks flying. Keep your relationship fun and playful. We all need someone that has our back but family cant fill a void we all have. In the mean time get up start having fun again and keep it up! Let me know how things go!
love is all i have left……….
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i agree trey. i’m in a gay relationship with my boyfriend and the same rules apply. I appreciate what my man does for me and we do give eachother space which is important, but we also remind eachother how important we are to eachother. i tend to surprise from time to time and vice-versa. this week i’m taking cain to the cayman islands, he’s always wanted to go there. I rented a house for the entire week and i’m gonna be his maid and butler, anything he wants. Mostly i’ll be making love to him thorughout the stay. What he doesn’t know is i plan on proposeing to him. so it’s going to be two big surprises the trip and the proposal.
Ms. Elle Jay
I really enjoyed your post. I am going to consider some of your options to help keep my relationship enterained. I’ll also be sure to give him a copy of this.
Thanks Again
Nice post..I’m always trying to think of ways to keep it exciting.
Another good one is role play. If you’re open it is very satisfying.
Best of luck to Kevin
Really good points…once that “infatuation” stage is over it seems so hard to keep things exciting
Really good points…once that “infatuation” stage is over it seems so hard to keep things exciting
I feel you on that MissA87. Long lasting relationships take a lot of work. You have to do so much to keep things interesting but in the end you will do such a thing if you know the person you are with is worth it. I use to enjoy the infatuation stage and then i’d be ready to move on to another infatuation. Eventually I realized that I wasn’t getting anything positive from that. Now i’d rather put the work in with one women.
Dis was, i have to say, one of the most interestin blog i’ve read on here… For me, i always have issues wit stayin interested wit one female… It normally dnt even be anything wrong with her, its just the fact that i can get the same thing she’s offering from someone else.. Honestly i feel like i dnt give it too much of a chance when it comes to a relationship but i always complain to myself why i cant find a bitch( pleez excuse my language to allyou young beautiful ladies….Im from da south and dats how we talk) that i can claim as mine… but ima take some tips from this and see wat happens… Or atleast how long it goes on…
I’ll give u interesting… Jus don’t come home for
a few days, then come back actin like nothin happen
see what reaction you get. If that don’t turn her on
then yall relationship was over anyway.
Then again taking advice from me might not be such
a good idea
If you dont come home for a few days, expect ur belongings to be on the lawn! lol