Real Love Takes Work!
Measuring love is not a progressive or spontaneous experience. It’ll never just happen to you. You can’t “find” lasting love. You have to “create” it day after day. That’s why we have the expression “real love takes work”, because it takes
time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes wisdom and strength. You have to know what to do to
make your relationship work. You must keep the spontaneous situations current. You ever notice how in relationships people may sometimes say there breath was taking away? Falling in love is easy. It’s a passive spontaneous experience, but keeping that spark throughout the relationship is key, or that fire will burn out FAST. Falling in love was the easy part. You did not have to do anything. It was a very spontaneous and joyful moment. That’s why it is called “falling” in love, it happens to you. But after a time period the joy of that love begins to fade. It is a natural cycle of 93 percent relationships. For example phone calls slowly start to slow up, even if they come at all. Random I love yous stop, physical contact begins to become a bother, and your spouses little habits that were cute at first start to drive you crazy. At this point in time you begin to ask yourself, why am I even still in this relationship, and you and your mate begin to reflect on the euphoria of the love and fire you first had. This is when you can suddenly feel the want to have that desire and experience those feelings with another person, or begin to think that the outside voice looking in is better than what got your ass in, Most of us experience problematic patterns of emotion and behavior that feel unsteady and out of control. The question is, how did we get there and how do we get unstuck and move forward with the relationship. 1st you must remember what true love means to you and where it has gotten you. Remember that you took a chance to fall in love, so take a chance to salvage your love, fight for it. Redefine that spark and make it uproar into that fire burning lust that you fell in love with. Basically what you must do is restructure some of your daily events with your mate. Start from the beginning, keep the compliments up, make every kiss seems as if it’s the last, make love like the first time when you were trying to prove a point and compete, full body massages are great. Even if you are not that great with your hands, put all the love, care, lust, and your heart into every time you touch there body. Identify what your love alone has done for your mate, and what it has done when you build off each other. What it stands for, what it gets you through, and how it makes you feel. Understand that love is a serious emotion that is not to be played with, so if you do not want to be taking lightly, do not love lightly. You must always remember to love the one that loves you before you try to go and love the one you like! The key to succeeding in a relationship at times is not always finding the right person, but learning to love the person you have found!
I can totally agree and relate to this. Yes, real love takes work and a whole lot of other things. I think people often forget or skip out on that part of the relationship! People are lazy and want to do nothing but expect everything to be given to them on a silver platter! Now what i do believe love should be easy whoever said love is hard and hurts was full of shit! What I mean by this is a person should make it easy to love them! Im not gone ask you to move mountains, cross valley, and give me things that are not yours in the first place sun, moon, and stars! All I want is time attention and affection! I believe the best way to make a relationship work is give time and show love and appreciation! If you are doing one like you should the others will fall into place. Relationships are not hard, we just make them harder than what they should be with the attitudes and egos!
Real love takes work, not only work but hard work. I understand what Ms. Lake is saying in regards to relationships only being hard because of egos and attitudes. But in my opinion that is what makes them hard to handle. You have to learn how to adapt to your mates mood swings. That is hard, because as women we want everything to go our way, and when the first sign of turmoil arise, we are passt pissed and ready to end everything. Real love takes work, if you are not working to maintain your relationship, it will not last.
I so agree with you. Often people forget that love should be blissful and priceless, not stressful and costly
I agree and have been through what you are saying Ms. K, but through it all you must be able to love through the frustrations and remember that, that little time period is just what it is, a small piece of the big picture and comes with the relationship. But we both know how that can be a disaster with the spoiledness in some of us.
I agree with you all on different points. I truly just think that love should flow easy. When u love some one u know. When u are truly deeply in love u just know it and u feel it u dont have to force ur self to do anything and real love is hard to take away….well maybe thats me. I love hard!!!Yes in a relationship there will be scarfices and changes that need to be made, because everyone must adapt, but real love just flows and u can see real love shining through….i agree with u all…good points