Disclaimer:

This post is in no way a Male bashing session, merely a medium to vent on the current state of affairs for bad ass chicks. So if you take offense…I don’t give a shit. Thank very much ?

When I was in middle school I saw the movie “Waiting to Exhale” with my mother and aunt. Most of us related to Angela’s character, setting ole’ boy’s shit on fire after he left her for the white woman. Hell, I was jumping up and down too. But as a woman now who is a few steps away from 30 yrs old, ambitious, intelligent, confident, and not to mention…bad as hell, it’s safe to say the pickings are slim. I call this phenomenon “The Savannah Effect”. Savannah was the character that Whitney Houston played, “shoop-shoop-shoopin around and shit”. I can identify so much with her plight now because I’m at the age where her life just might end up being mine in 10 yrs or so! Aint that some shit?? So what does a woman with everything going for herself do for companionship? Sheeeiiiiitttt…we have options, but many of us don’t like the options. So we talk shit with our girls over margaritas and mojitos…or write blogs about the shit. See here’s the problem. We all know that the male/female ratio is very much in the male’s favor. Men have way more options than women do from the jump. Then when you factor in socio-economic status, educational background, chemistry and over all compatibility, women are left with the painful realization if how bleak our picture really is. Jesus take the wheel!!!! I’m sorry ,“But this shit right here nicca?? This shit right here??” Its some sad shit, enough to make you go buy a pack of Dutches (Swisher’s for my southern homies), roll up some Dro, Hayes…whatever your vice may be, and do like we did in middle school; make a list of all the traits of your dream man and rank them in order of most important to see what you end up with. Seriously, I consider myself a real Boss type chick. I’m not perfect by far, but I have plans that don’t permit sub-par lil niggas. As unpleasant as they may be, I’ve compiled a list of options for women experiencing “The Savannah Effect”.

I woke up today feeling as if I wanted to share a good blowjob technique with you. It is extemely easy to get the hang of and it’s going to drive your man crazy with pleasure. Now this is something you can sprinkle into your “ordinary routine”, and is not something you want to base your whole spill on.

Start at the base of his cock. Slowly lick your way up his shaft, almost like you would do if you had a lollipop. Then, when you’re at the top of his shaft, just beneath his head, swallow as much of his cock as you can in one taking. This will definitely make your man go crazy.And another blowjob trick to rule them all. There’s a certain technique that I always like to recommend when someone asks me for advice on how to suck a good dick.

It’s a tad (but only a tad) difficult to get a hold of, but when you do, he’s not going to be able to stop thanking you afterwards. It’s just that good.

So here’s what you do. Grab a hold of his cock with both of your hand. If he’s not large enough, then just grab his cock with one hand. As you keep going up and down over his penis with your mouth, do the same with your hand.

Also; while you’re doing this start rotating your hands back and forth. Rotate the hands in opposite directions for extra effect. That’s it. That’s probably the best blowjob technique I know of.

1. ENJOY WHAT YOU’RE DOING. This is the biggest one, ladies. Men say it’s hard to enjoy themselves when their lady seems bored, in a hurry or unsure how to give a blowjob. Can you blame him? This is his most sensitive part of his body that he’s entrusting… TO YOUR MOUTH! This is your chance to give pleasure to your man.
   Think of this as one of the most passionate gifts you can give to him. So be enthusiastic about it! It’s time you let that inner sex kitten out and play. Be powerful, strong and sexy. Look at him while you’re pleasuring him, enjoy the fact that right at this moment, he’d hand over the keys to the castle. This is a powerful act for a woman and the time when a man is at his most vulnerable. Take your time, tease that naughty boy. Savor it.
2. THE WETTER, THE BETTER. Guys agree. The more saliva you use, the more enjoyable. Try and keep him very moist from the tip on down. This is not a time to act like Bree on “Desperate Housewives” and be anally neat. Get messy. Keep a glass of water on the nightstand. Use lubricant if you need to (although that that can taste like nasty old tires!) or experiment with some fun foods, like whipped cream or a lukewarm tea. Remember, you are simulating a very warm moist place…
3. LEND A HELPING HAND. Or two. Don’t be afraid to use your hands. In fact, your hand should be a nice continuation of your mouth. Even feel free to add a gentle twist of the wrist to add to the pleasure. Think about all that pleasure that can come from a VARIETY of sensations. You need to combine your mouth, lips, tongue and hands. That beautiful combination of flickering tongue, moist lips, suctions, licking, wet hands, twists and more can send your man over the edge…
4. BE BALLSY. The testicles are your friends, ladies. Treat them as such. Greet them warmly. One of the top complaints I hear from men is that their female counterparts would forget that they are a package deal. Three’s Company. Caress them with your spare hand tenderly, tickle and tease.
5. REMEMBER WHAT YOU’RE HANDLING. There’s fine line between being firm and strangulation. Be mindful of the amount of pressure you’re using. Try and think what you would like, were the tables turned. You’re not strangling a dead chicken.
6. NO TEETH. Seriously? Do I have to tell you this? The guys said YEAH I DO have to, because ladies out there are still playing human grater. YIKES!Keep the teeth outta sight. Sure some men like a VERY little sensation of teeth, but NOT many and if you aren’t really good at what you’re doing yet, then don’t scare the poor man. Keep those puppies away from him

Via: YourTango

Some people say they “just knew” that they were dating their future spouse. But what about the rest of us? What happens when you’re not sure if he’s The One? If you’re considering long-term commitment or marriage, it’s time to ask yourself some tough questions. Below, 10 signs that may indicate he’s not for you.

1. You have a list of things he needs to stop doing/saying/wearing if he wants your relationship to work. If you’re fixating on his flaws, he’s either not the one you want or you’re not ready for a serious relationship. Cutting him loose allows you time to grow and gives you the opportunity to meet a guy whose flaws you can embrace — or at least accept.

2. You don’t trust him. A small dose of jealousy can be healthy, but if you’re hacking into his email account, and going berserk when he goes out without you, something’s wrong. If there’s something about him that truly warrants your distrust, then perhaps he’s not the right one for you.

3. You avoid conflict at any cost. Fighting is healthy. And, when done right (in the non-accusatory, rational sort of way), it can be a great way to air grievances, fix problems in your relationship, and come to a deeper understanding of each other. Ignoring problems is not the same as having no problems at all… even if it looks that way.

4. When you’re sad, you don’t turn to him for comfort.When you’re a giant ball of tears and snot, do you lock yourself into the bathroom so he can’t see you at your worst? If you’re worried about scaring him away, one of you isn’t ready for total commitment. Mr. Right should make you smile through your tears and be a calming, not stressful, presence.

5. One of you is struggling with an addiction. He’s sweet. He’s exciting. He loves you very much. But he loves his alcohol habit or his weekly gambling fix more. Don’t fool yourself into thinking that you can change him or that your relationship will be strong enough to withstand the heartache that addiction will inevitably bring. An addict may be able to change, but he’ll do so on his own terms.

6. You can’t really imagine him as the father of your children. Ask yourself: Would he make a great parent? Is he financially responsible? Would he be an equal partner in your future together? If you have doubts, he’s probably not the one.

7. Your long-term, non-negotiable goals in life are incompatible. You want kids; he doesn’t. You go to church every week; he’s an atheist. He lives in the country and doesn’t want to move; you can’t imagine ever leaving the city. Superficial differences can be overcome, but differences in basic values are harder to smooth over. Ask yourself: “Would I be willing to compromise on this?” If the answer is absolutely not, you may not be right for each other.

8. You don’t respect each other. He puts you down in front of your friends and complains about you to his parents. You roll your eyes when he talks because there’s just something about him that embarrasses you. A relationship without respect can’t sustain itself.

9. You’re not attracted to him. Physical intimacy is a hugely important component of a romantic relationship. If he doesn’t do it for you, he’s probably not your best long-term match.

10. On paper he seems great, but you have this strange feeling... Don’t ignore your gut. You may get along on a superficial level, but if your instincts are telling you he’s not the one for you, listen. That little voice inside your head does not lie.

Just kidding dolls!!

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There’s an official obsession with matte nail beginning to brew here. It’s to the point that looking at super glossy nails is a little bit of a turn off, which is crazy because there was nothing that I used to love more than a the shine of a fresh mani. And even still, I think a straight matte nail is a bit much. And that’s why I love this design. You get the mystery of the matte with a little added pop from the sparkle to bring it out. This image and the mani were created by MarianNaoust.  Follow the link and you can find details on the polish she used.

Every man is very different in how he enjoys fellatio, so what works for one person may not work for another. The best thing to do is try many techniques! As a disclaimer: I don’t have a penis, so I don’t know what it feels like to get a blowjob, so I can’t promise that what I suggest will be the best for any particular male. Instead, I am relying on the low down my male friends entrusted me with. The tips that follow are a collection of personal anecdotes, experiences and lots of practice and research.

Probably the most popular strategy for fellatio is the vacuum method of just sucking on the cock. But that can get boring after a while. A variety of things can enhance the experience for your partner.

Don’t forget to communicate. Constructive criticism can be useful for both of you. You’ll find out what he likes best and you can let him know what worked well for you. Overall, just have fun! Practice and experimentation will make the experience enjoyable and gratifying for you both. Enjoy!