Now some of you may not be feeling this but if you know like a know then you agree that a real playa doesn’t discriminate.  He can get down with any woman no matter what color.  I know allot of black men are attracted to Asian women but they just don’t know how to holler at one.  I’m here to help you. I’ve had my share of asian women in my time and I’ll tell you that they are something else. All the ones I’ve been with are all the same. Very trustworthy, submissive and definitely believe in giving their man massages or whatever he may need on the daily.  You may end up hooked if you’re not careful.

Step #1: Know The Gatekeepers.

It’s very important for you to start building “gate keeper” relationships. This means making AAF’s (Asian Female Friends) who will then give you access to more Asian women. You probably won’t be having sex with any of these AAFs. Their function will be to introduce you to their cute friends and get you into their social circles.

This is for my blinded by love women…here’s a little help!! Cause New.New got you baby!!…I try to uplift my girls…give y’all a lil bit of game! Some of y’all need it sooooooo do me a favor and listen up..I’m going to give you just a few things to look out for!! By no means am I saying that I’m perfect or that I know everything, but what I do know…I will share with you!

If I had a nickel for every time a woman shared a bad love experience with me… then I’d be VERY well off. The crazy part is that some women actually believe it’s only them going through this…HELL NAW lil mama…plenty of us do! Some of us would just not rather talk about it!

So you meet a guy, he seems great, everything is cool, you like him-he likes you- you give him some nookie…. Only AFTER THE FACT, once you’ve already become sexual and intimate with him, do you start to find out who he REALLY IS and what he REALLY WANTS- You’ve given him some loving but find out that no- he actually doesn’t want a relationship!! So now you are sitting there like FUCK him, and make him out to be the bad guy!! It’s not him- it’s you…if he never told you that was what he was looking for then how could you assume that it would just automatically happen?! IMMA SAY THIS REALLY LOUD…PUSSY WILL NOT KEEP A MAN, OR MAKE HIM WANT TO BE YOUR MAN!!! DONT THINK JUST BECAUSE YOU GOT SOME GOOD-GOOD..HE’LL WANT TO SETTLE DOWN…in case you didn’t know good pussy comes a dime a dozen!! As long as its tight, wet, and available… he’ll fuck it…so you aren’t nobody special!! (sry! just keeping it real!!!) If he wants a relationship he will let it be known…do not be mad at him when your plan A (give him the goodies, and now he’s mine!) doesn’t work! OH AND FELLAS…PLEASE WATCH OUT WHO YOU STICK IT INTO, SOME OF US WOMEN ARE CRAZY, AND IM NOT SAYING ITS ALWAYS OUR FAULTS NOW…CAUSE SOME OF YALL MEN SHOULD HAVE KNOWN BETTER!!! Follow your head and not your coochie. All women have their guy they lust after. However, lust doesn’t equal a good relationship

…If the only reason you’re dating a guy is because he’s good in bed, then it’s time to find a different type of guy. Think before you start dating a guy. If you have nothing in common and the two of you can’t have a decent conversation, then move on. He may be to die for in the looks department, but that only goes so far.

ARE you still with me?…great come on…

TIP # 2- Look at yourself…what impression are you giving men? What is your clothing/ body language saying? Dress and act like the man you want to attract. You can still be yourself and sexy, but a few minor changes will have you attracting real men instead of boys that will never grow up. You know the old saying…if she dresses like a hoe, walks like a hoe…she’s probably a hoe!! yeah…you get the picture..your first impression is everything…please make it a good one!

Okay so you want a good man, but you keep your ass in the club! (Facebook this was my problem, I must be honest!) Don’t nobody want a club hopper! Now before you get all excited, I know that a lot of people find their future husband at a bar or club, but those places are usually filled with people looking for quick hookups or one night stands. If that’s what you want, fine. If it’s not, it’s best to stay away from those places and focus on meeting men in non hookup related places, like the grocery store!!

One of the reasons girls end up with the wrong kind of guy is they lack the self-esteem to blow off the wrong guys. You don’t have to settle for less than what you’re worth because you think you’re not worthy of something better. Work on your confidence and take time to make yourself feel better. Do whatever it takes to make yourself realize that you are someone who deserves a good man. It’s okay to be picky. You don’t have to date every guy who asks you out or go out on a second or third date if you don’t want to. Don’t be afraid to turn a guy down because you’re afraid you will hurt his feelings. Only go out with a guy who you think really has a chance of being the right guy for you. A lot of girls have trouble saying no to guys, especially when being asked out on a date. Get comfortable with saying no and don’t do anything you don’t want to do. These tips for single girls on how to stop dating the wrong guys can go for anyone. It’s natural to feel bad about rejecting someone. And it’s common for a girl to have low self-esteem. But in order to stop putting yourself through the pain and confusion of dating the wrong guys, you need to put some effort into it.

I hate to hear women say…there are no good men left! I hate it because there still are!! Sometimes you have to go outside your box…Just because he isn’t a “bad boy” doesn’t make him square!!! Don’t let any man intimidate you! Go for what you want!! Don’t ever sell yourself short because you think you aren’t good enough!! AND, If I ever see Denzel Washington- BABY!! that ass is mine! Stop dealing with the wrong man…and get on the winning team!!! Life is sooooo much better when you’re happy!

i love you all….xoxo.

love always (your favorite badd girl),
Melanie Kay aka new.new

For a playa there is nothing better than banging a chick who just got out of a relationship. As sad as it may sound, we really get off on taking advantage of a woman while her mental state and emotions are running all wild.  If you don’t really know how to respond when you find out that she just got out of a relationship; fear not, I am here to help you get that ass but there are some things that you have to know First off, never refer to her ex by name. It is better to refer to him as “that guy.” This diminishes his significance. Saying his name out loud, when talking about him with her, triggers emotions and memories and you don’t want that homie.

While you never want to get into extended discussions with women about their ex-boyfriends–you want to keep things focused on the present, and on you and her–knowing the types of guys she’s dated in the past can provide valuable information.

This is especially true when she dated a lame, since you can now present yourself as the opposite of him.

There are three main categories of lame ass ex-boyfriends:

Type #1 – The Stalker.

When the relationship ended this loser couldn’t let go. When running game on a woman with a stalker ex, you must come off as the “anti stalker.” Be extra careful about saying or doing anything that show “clinginess.”

Don’t accompany her everywhere. If you call her to chat, she should be the one calling you next time. When she calls you to invite you out, don’t always accept the invite. Try saying, “I’m just going to chill tonight. You go ahead and have a girl’s night out. Have a great time. Call me tomorrow and let me know how it went.”

Make it a habit to give her space and let her know you’ve got other things going on in your life–unlike the stalker, whose entire world revolved around her.

Type #2 – The Loser.

He was broke, couldn’t hold a job, or simply had no ambitions or direction in life. Become the opposite in her eyes by mentioning things, or goals in your life that you are passionate about. Women are turned on by passionate men. It’s a quality that losers lack.

Type #3 – Mr. Can’t Commit.

This guy refused to commit to her. Maybe he dumped her at the altar; maybe he was never willing to be monogamous. With this type of girl, demonstrate how important commitment is to you.

Use the word commit in your conversations with her. Don’t say “I’d love to have my own business someday.” Say, “I’m very commited to launching my own business soon.” Don’t say, “I’m close with my family.” Say, “I’m really committed to my family. They’ve always been there for me, and I’m always there for them.” A guy who values commitment is a guy she can imagine being commited to her.

Also, no matter how much of a busta her ex-boyfriend sounds like, don’t talk shit about him. Read that again – it’s really important.

Remember, at one point in time she had serious feelings for him. Dissing him is basically the same as dissing her, and her judgement. Instead, make him seem irrelevant and not even worth discussing. “It sounds like that guy didn’t appreciate all the great things I’m seeing in you.”

Then move the conversation onto a more pleasant topic. Keep things focused on the present and on future possibilities. “That guy” is boring, irrelevant, ancient history.

Whenever the topic comes up, women are invariably going to ask you about your romantic past and “what happened” between you and your ex. This is a minefield you do not want to stumble into.

No matter how it ended between you and your ex, your explanation is probably going to make you look bad. Think about it…

• If she was a nutcase, then it makes you look like you’ve got terrible taste in women.

• If she dumped you, it makes you look lame. And if you broke up with her, for whatever reason, it makes you look callous.

Either way, you lose. So this is what you should do… just give a vague answer about your past relationship and reinforce in her mind that you’re both unattached now–and that the future is wide open.

Use this magic line:

“We had a lot of good times together, but in the end, it just wasn’t meant to be. I think it’s a good thing that you and me are both single now, and back on the scene.”

Now, move the conversation onto a fun topic that leaves the exes in the past–where they belong. Before you know it you will be in that ass!! Thank you and goodnight

I realized that I talk so much shit about what a man needs to do to get women.  It has suddenly came to me that I haven’t really touched on what women don’t want in a man.  If you don’t do these things below then you are probably a guy who doesn’t have problems in his love.  Check out my short list below
…is wimpy and needs to be mothered all the time

…doesn’t know how to listen

…. Act too pretty

… never turns down an opportunity to kick it with his homeboys

Disclaimer:

This post is in no way a Male bashing session, merely a medium to vent on the current state of affairs for bad ass chicks. So if you take offense…I don’t give a shit. Thank very much ?

When I was in middle school I saw the movie “Waiting to Exhale” with my mother and aunt. Most of us related to Angela’s character, setting ole’ boy’s shit on fire after he left her for the white woman. Hell, I was jumping up and down too. But as a woman now who is a few steps away from 30 yrs old, ambitious, intelligent, confident, and not to mention…bad as hell, it’s safe to say the pickings are slim. I call this phenomenon “The Savannah Effect”. Savannah was the character that Whitney Houston played, “shoop-shoop-shoopin around and shit”. I can identify so much with her plight now because I’m at the age where her life just might end up being mine in 10 yrs or so! Aint that some shit?? So what does a woman with everything going for herself do for companionship? Sheeeiiiiitttt…we have options, but many of us don’t like the options. So we talk shit with our girls over margaritas and mojitos…or write blogs about the shit. See here’s the problem. We all know that the male/female ratio is very much in the male’s favor. Men have way more options than women do from the jump. Then when you factor in socio-economic status, educational background, chemistry and over all compatibility, women are left with the painful realization if how bleak our picture really is. Jesus take the wheel!!!! I’m sorry ,“But this shit right here nicca?? This shit right here??” Its some sad shit, enough to make you go buy a pack of Dutches (Swisher’s for my southern homies), roll up some Dro, Hayes…whatever your vice may be, and do like we did in middle school; make a list of all the traits of your dream man and rank them in order of most important to see what you end up with. Seriously, I consider myself a real Boss type chick. I’m not perfect by far, but I have plans that don’t permit sub-par lil niggas. As unpleasant as they may be, I’ve compiled a list of options for women experiencing “The Savannah Effect”.

They say a picture is worth a thousand words; now picture yourself, approaching a woman or a man(your choice), walking into a party. How do you look? What message do you communicate the moment you walk into a room? What are your eyes, hands and shoulders saying? What information can people gather about you before you ever say a word? Never thought about it? You should.

People read your body language, often via instinct and without thinking. First impressions are everything… It’s because our poses and postures are a great source of information. They reflect our mood and our confidence level. We stand and walk a certain way when we’re confident and another way when we’re nervous. In a glance, most people can discern if we’re apprehensive or outgoing, relaxed or aggressive. With a little practice, we can all be swag surfing around this beeeaaaatch! These are just a few of my tips….you dont have to do it, but hell- they have never failed me yet!!

One of my absolute pet peeves is to see a woman walk into a club, room, or anywhere, with their head down…We tend to keep our head down when we’re uncomfortable or unsure of ourselves. And as long as you have your head to the ground, that’s how other people will view you.
>>>>Women and men tend to hide thier faces when they are nervous, lifting your head high indicates confidence, and shows others you have nothing to hide.Also, recognize that putting your head down encourages slouching, which isn’t sexy…try putting your hands on your hips; it’s a far more confident posture.

Keeping your eyes level might be one of the easiest ways to show confidence in body language. When you’re walking anywhere by yourself, it often feels natural to lower your head slightly and watch your step, but this posture communicates to others that you don’t want to engage in conversation or interact. And if you’re not careful, you might get into the habit of doing it all the time. Keep your chin up and your eyes forward, even when you’re walking down the street by yourself. Looking people in their eyes when you walk in somewhere…tells them that “yea im here…HELLLOOOOO!” it shows that you are outgoing…and its sexy. eye language is the shit!!

A confident woman will never be described as “creeping” or “sneaking,” so pay attention to the way you walk. If you want to show confidence with body language you want to take large steps. Wide steps make you seem purposeful and suggest a personal tranquility, which denotes confidence in women.
Have a signature walk for yourself….make sure it tells evryone(without actually telling anyone) how sure you are of who you are as a women! what i usually do is when i walk in to a place is pretend that there is a runway in front of me….and i rock it!! add a little hip swing to your walk without making it look like you’re trying to switch hard as hell! < you will get laughed at!

Imagine yourself walking into a room, maybe there are lots of other beautiful women there or maybe the room is filled with respected sociallites. Now consider your appearance: bed head hair, too much make up,outfit too tight, or maybe even to big. The point I’m trying to make is that grooming is an essential component of communicating confidence through body language. You want your hair, face and even your smell to work for you, not against you. Don’t be afraid to experiment with new products to find the ones that work for you.

Confident people smile because they have nothing to worry about. Try this as an experiment: smile at someone as you pass them on the street or walking around the office. Chances are good that they’ll smile back. Now wouldn’t you like to have that effect on people all the time?

Crossing your arms is a protective posture. We do it when we’re cold, nervous or on guard. Think of those big, burly nightclub bouncers, crossing their arms while standing guard at the door to a club. Do they look like guys you want to talk to, joke with or work with? No, right? Their job is to look intimidating. Your job is to look likeable, open and confident. So relax a little and keep your arms uncrossed.

There is a big difference between being cocky and having confidence.

Cocky is bold, brash, and brazen along with sassy and saucy. There is self-confidence well hidden under the behavior but it manifests itself rudely most of the time.

Self-confidence is confidence in oneself and in one’s powers and abilities. It’s being secure and having assurance in oneself. Self-confidence is sexy. Self-confidence is classy.

confidence is absolutely essential to our business success. We need to know who we are, what we are capable of and what talents we have to successfully execute our tasks. Take a few minutes to complete the following exercise:

>List your three top character traits.
>Complete the sentence: I never shy away from _________.
>List your three most valuable strengths.
>List five life-talents you have (what you’re naturally gifted at).

See…you’re pretty terrific, huh? Stand tall in who you are and what you do best. Focus on those things and more abundance of every kind will flood into your life.

We should still also seek to improve our weak points and develop into a better, more balanced, enriched person. Focusing on our weaknesses though will stall our game and cause us to loose sight of whats real…

Being cocky turns people off. Being confident attracts people to us.

But Remember dont ever try to be someone your not, it will show…and then everyone will think you’re fake! SoOoO ALWAYS ALWAYS be yourself!!!

love always your favorite badd girl.
xoxo. newnew

Okay Blowpop readers; so you know I like to keep it 100 at all times, so why would today be any different!!!???
So last night I was sitting around with some close friends pondering on a topic for today…I had already thought of a few but none that really captivated me! As we drank our wine and loosened up…somehow we found ourselves on the topic of DICK! WOW!, I know…girl talk is a motha***** with itself!
And so with that said, today i want to elaborate on proper Penis etiquette….

Guys give us all this slack about how pretty we are supposed to be down there..so what about some of the rules they should be following!?…I’m just saying!

For A penis to be sexy…it starts with the underwear…just as it would for women!! I took a poll, and like 8 out of 10 girls prefer a man in boxer briefs!! Boxers are sooo blahhh…and briefs (tighty whiteys) remind us of little boys!! Boxer briefs though, are sooo masculine and sexy! They outline just enough for us to have something to look forward to…and mhmmmmm there isn’t anything sexier than a man that can fill them up in all the right places!!

Now, on to this hair issue!! I know a few chicks that like a guy to shave it ALL off!…that’s cool- I guess for some! but I would just feel like something is missing! ….my opinion! But I think the majority of us aren’t that picky…but we do ask that you keep it presentable!! Men like for women to keep the hair tamed- umm can we get the same in return!!?? thnx!! If your hair is nappy, musty, and all over the place…please handle that!! It’s simple…hair brings sweat…sweat brings the funk..and no..we don’t like any of that!!!

Well this one here may be a touchy subject for some…especially if it applies to you…an uncircumcised penis…A GIRLS WORST FEAR!…Lol…no, not really….but really though! BUT!!! we don’t blame you, because your mama should have handled that from get go!! Anyways though…if you do have one, make sure you wash it every day!!! I mean every every every day!!!!!!!! I’m not even going to begin to explain some of the horror stories that I’ve heard…but do know they are horrible!!! so please keep it clean guys!! …thnx again- from us girls!! oh and OMG…here’s the scoop…i heard through the grapevine T.I.’s manhood is packing extra skin!! WOWZERSS!!!…what a bummer!!

I don’t know if guys knew this….but a penis does have a smell…please make sure you handle that!!! Especially if you know that you finna go lay it down!!! that shit is sooooooooooooooo unattractive it isn’t even funny!! We do we have to make is smell nice and pretty for the men…some guys need to take heed!! Oh! when you wash your d*ck Be sure to wash your balls too!! They have been sitting in the same spot all day sweating…fix that bruh!!

All right babes…it was short and sweet this time…but some things just have to be said…you would be surprised what people don’t know!! LMAO!!!
I keep it real..so you could never say i was fake!

I love you all!

xoxo…your favorite badd girl!,
New. new

Don’t bring other people’s problems, manipulative behavior or anxiety into yourself, learn how to break out of a negative relationship cycle! Just because an issue may be similar does not mean that it will turn out the same way……..If you expect for doubt, failure, or infidelity, your mind is positioned in the wrong place! Don’t always think that your time is being wasted, when in turn you may be the one wasting time! Lets take a minute to break these issues down one by one. A lot of times people hold on to a relationship that puts them under so much stress, regret, and pain strictly because of the time that they have put into the relationship. Time means everything in some cases, and it means nothing in others. There is valuable time and wasted time. Do not confuse length with what is truly valuable. I have known to deal with certain couples that will hold on to what breaks them inside, tears them down, and stresses them completely out strictly because of years that they have been in the relationship. First of all, if you have any of these issues within your relationship your communication level is either DEAD or you just holding on to a failed project. Each relationship should be handled as a learning and growing process. Another issue with wasted time, some people hold on to the thought of just having someone and being in love with being in love. How can this help you as an individual though? People tend to get so caught up in what they want to work, they forget what works for them and what they need. Its good to think of your mate in your relationship, but how will you be able to facilitate what is needed at a high level if you yourself are not in order mentally. Mental satisfaction is one of the most important elements in a relationship. If connection is lost with that, you point of progression will be stand still. Z!

The 1st place that you should look for advice about your relationship is within your own relationship! Communicate what it is that you want, the problem, or just ideas to progress! Now if you are dealing with a person that doesn’t want to communicate….well you can answer that relationship ending for yourself! And if you’re holding on, you will be only hurting yourself! Ask the person that you are in the relationship with before you get outside interference. Think about this logically. Exactly what is outside info. Someone that gives an opinion on what they feel that they see or think you should do within your relationship. This can be helpful, but most likely hurtful to your relationship. Especially when asking a person that has been in and out of relationships for all negative reasons. A friend can give good advice, but how accurate is that. Your friend will look for the best situation that fits you, not what’s best for the relationship. Its not a negative thing, but your friend will majority of the time look out for your happiness, or depending on where they are in their relationship your sadness as well. So the 1st choice I think that you should make, is to talk to the person that you are having the issues with. I can not stress this enough people, one of the most important aspects of a successful relationship is effective communication between BOTH parties. Lack of communication in a relationship can result in hasty decisions that can even lead to separation. We need to understand the reasons behind communication breakdown and how they can be avoided to ensure a fulfilling relationship. If you are not able to talk to the person that you are going through turmoil with, then what’s the point??? Why should you have to seek out information and methods in how to deal with a person that is suppose to understand and respect you and your thoughts? Z!

Attn: We not trying wait anymore.  We all know that you already know if you want to give us some pussy within 15 seconds of meeting us so let’s just keep it real, lol.  Fellas if you want to become the most powerful man in the universe you must learn something I like to call dick/mind control. Once you master the art of not letting pussy control your emotions, you truly become powerful. A danger to the mind of woman. Most women only know how to control us by rationing out the pussy and then taking it away from us when we’ve done something they like. Once you learn how to not let that control you and your actions, she won’t know how to control you.